Loss And Change

Loss and Change

Whatever the cause, I can help.
 
Let me tell you a story about one of my patients:
A woman came to my office reporting intense stress and exhaustion since her beloved husband began showing symptoms of dementia. A very spiritual and gracious person, she had parts that told her she “should not feel” frustrated with him, but that she was “supposed to” feel gratitude for their good times instead of sadness about his condition. These parts prevented her from releasing her appropriate and totally understandable sadness about him. The energy it took to protect her from her grief was draining her.

Instead of helping her, these parts were actually interfering with the natural process of grieving. Through our work together, she was able to ask these otherwise valuable parts to step back just enough to allow her to unlock her sadness and tears. As she unburdened some of this sadness, she gained renewed calm and energy to face the challenges ahead of her.
Death of a loved one, loss of a job, relationship, or your health: when life deals you a blow that knocks you off your feet, it’s hard to imagine how talking to a therapist can help.  

It is true we cannot change what happens to us. But we can change how we react when bad things happen.

What does this mean?

Some of us have inner critics that tell us to “be positive” or “stop feeling sorry for" ourselves. Loss feels bad enough; it doesn’t help to feel guilty about feeling bad. Often these inner critics are driven by a fear that grief or sadness will overwhelm the person.

I know how to help you feel grief without drowning in it.  It may be hard to believe this, but grief can actually be liberating. 

By focusing on your internal world, I can help you cope with dignity, grace and strength.
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